Hi everyone. If I may add my perspective, I have many friends and acquaintances. Sometimes I don't want to share an aspect of my life with a person I am close to. As an example, I play bass guitar. The people I perform with I would not want to wrestle with. It would change the dynamic of our relationship. I want my musician friends to be my musician friends and my wrestling partners to be my wrestling partners. Musicians have a special bond. Wrestlers also have a special bond. The bonds can be very strong but they feel different. Those relationships must be respected.
Maybe your friend doesn't want to see you as an opponent. It might cause a conflict in him. I would suggest talking with him face to face and let him know you value his friendship and would like to know if you are stepping over a boundary. And please, respect his answer and don't try to change his mind or you might lose a friend.
How do you get off of a conversation list. I signed on the the Bed and Breakfast to put a comment down. I did not want to see eveyone's answers How do I get off that list. thanks. Dean
On the page with the conversation thread there is an icon on the right just above the conversation. It looks like a WiFi or radio waves symbol. It will let you unsubscribe.
I would never presume to tell you what to do. It may be helpful to remember, tho, that the fact you saw him here changes nothing. So, you could rely on your personal experience to help guide you.
How do you usually treat members who have declined a match or training session with you? What do you normally do when someone has told you "no?"
Members join MeetFighters for a wide variety of reasons – which the two of you may, or may not have in common. If he has never even hinted at combat interests, that should help you measure the social distance between you. That distance probably hasn't changed due to your arrival.
You don't mention what you want to talk to him about, but if you remove MeetFighters from the situation, how would you talk to him about anything personal he has not chosen to share with you?
There are many reasons why someone may not want to meet you. The best thing to do is to respect their wishes. I, for one won't meet a guy who is very young or very heavy or whose profile is overly provocative or threatening ("Wrestlingrapist" or "BloodyangryKOfighter" and such handles are not terribly appealing LOL). Or they may not be "real" or may just be afraid to take that first step. I did not respond to my first challenge (back in "Headlock Wrestling" days) for many months. Hope this helps, D
Hi people, Sammy here. I discovered that a friend of mine is a member of this site. You guys must be thinking : " well that's great for you, you'll have a close wrestling buddy !" Which is a good reaction.
Problem is that my friend never showed any interest in wrestling or either form of fighting. He never talked about it. Heck, he even got mad when I was insisting on training him in karate. And last friday I reconized him. After investigating I was sure that it was him.
But now that I know that I dont know how to talk to him about it. So guys what would you do ?
Just because he doesn't like karate, doesn't mean he doesn't like wrestling. Tell him, maybe he will want to wrestle you or maybe it will at least deepen your relationship.
justsomeguy (1)
2018-07-24 16:41Hi everyone. If I may add my perspective, I have many friends and acquaintances. Sometimes I don't want to share an aspect of my life with a person I am close to. As an example, I play bass guitar. The people I perform with I would not want to wrestle with. It would change the dynamic of our relationship. I want my musician friends to be my musician friends and my wrestling partners to be my wrestling partners. Musicians have a special bond. Wrestlers also have a special bond. The bonds can be very strong but they feel different. Those relationships must be respected.
Maybe your friend doesn't want to see you as an opponent. It might cause a conflict in him. I would suggest talking with him face to face and let him know you value his friendship and would like to know if you are stepping over a boundary. And please, respect his answer and don't try to change his mind or you might lose a friend.
FlDean2012 (118 )
2018-07-14 17:00How do you get off of a conversation list. I signed on the the Bed and Breakfast to put a comment down. I did not want to see eveyone's answers How do I get off that list. thanks. Dean
grappleruk (120)
2018-07-16 20:43(Som svar till detta)
On the page with the conversation thread there is an icon on the right just above the conversation. It looks like a WiFi or radio waves symbol. It will let you unsubscribe.
FlDean2012 (118 )
2018-07-16 21:32(Som svar till detta)
THANKS WILL TRY THAT. DEAN
buzzcut (2)
2016-03-09 15:31I would never presume to tell you what to do. It may be helpful to remember, tho, that the fact you saw him here changes nothing. So, you could rely on your personal experience to help guide you.
How do you usually treat members who have declined a match or training session with you? What do you normally do when someone has told you "no?"
Members join MeetFighters for a wide variety of reasons – which the two of you may, or may not have in common. If he has never even hinted at combat interests, that should help you measure the social distance between you. That distance probably hasn't changed due to your arrival.
You don't mention what you want to talk to him about, but if you remove MeetFighters from the situation, how would you talk to him about anything personal he has not chosen to share with you?
SilverFoxFight (37)
2016-03-10 20:53(Som svar till detta)
There are many reasons why someone may not want to meet you. The best thing to do is to respect their wishes. I, for one won't meet a guy who is very young or very heavy or whose profile is overly provocative or threatening ("Wrestlingrapist" or "BloodyangryKOfighter" and such handles are not terribly appealing LOL). Or they may not be "real" or may just be afraid to take that first step. I did not respond to my first challenge (back in "Headlock Wrestling" days) for many months. Hope this helps, D
sammy novicewrestler (6 )
2016-03-09 04:16Hi people, Sammy here. I discovered that a friend of mine is a member of this site. You guys must be thinking : " well that's great for you, you'll have a close wrestling buddy !" Which is a good reaction.
Problem is that my friend never showed any interest in wrestling or either form of fighting. He never talked about it. Heck, he even got mad when I was insisting on training him in karate. And last friday I reconized him. After investigating I was sure that it was him.
But now that I know that I dont know how to talk to him about it. So guys what would you do ?
bigchicago (68)
2018-07-26 21:07(Som svar till detta)
Just because he doesn't like karate, doesn't mean he doesn't like wrestling. Tell him, maybe he will want to wrestle you or maybe it will at least deepen your relationship.